I’ve always been extremely dedicated when it comes to integrity. I think it’s very imperative to be an honest person. However, being honest is difficult.
Honesty takes both dedication and restraint. I can’t even recall how many assignments I’ve done poorer on than other students because I refused to cheat, copy, or lie my way to good grades. It just doesn’t feel right to cheat; inherently and intrinsically you are removing yourself from many opportunities to grow and become greater. The truth doesn’t always pay off up front- it is something that is discovered over time.
Doing things the correct and honest way always pays off in the end. If you embrace true beliefs, they will indirectly become fused into your personality. I have had countless positive encounters as a result of this; somehow people can deduce you pretty quickly.
Was when I was in high school AP Calculus, my teacher (she was amazing) had us aware of a test on Friday. She was very strict with tests- if you were not in class that day, you would take a big ol’ zero. You could by no circumstances, EVER see or take the test after school. Once, some people went to school on a snow day to make sure school was really closed and our teacher wasn’t administering the test (I wouldn’t doubt it if she was.) Another time, I remember holding my jacket to my nose and mouth with one hand and poking numbers/scribbling answers on my test with the other hand while my flu-ridden classmate hacked his way through the exam next to me. You know where this is going right?
Well, one occurrence entailed me to ask my teacher if I may take the test after school. I was sick the whole week, so I needed to learn the test material. I required class time to complete the homework and then hopefully take the test after school. As I shakily explained my situation to her, she peered into my soul as if contemplating sacrificing me to King Baphomet. “Yes,” she replied after a lingering pause.
Wow. That was pretty awesome.
She trusted me enough to not cheat on the test and she barely knew me at the time. It was such a great feeling. This scenario has had various variations over the years, from friends’ parents feeling like their kids are safe when I’m with them to just yesterday at the doctor when the nurse asked me if I smoked and I replied “no,” to which her response was: “of course you don’t you’re a good guy.” I chuckled at the prospect that smoking is synonymous with being a bad person but nevertheless graciously accepted her compliment.
When people trust you, they are on your side- it’s an amazing feeling to think that perhaps there are people that have my back who I don’t even know.
What do YOU find trustworthy in a person? Leave the traits you think are important in order to trust someone in the comments below 🙂